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@dale@g0v.social
Gamer. Poet. Dad. Kindness is clarity; kindness is important. Views are my own.
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Joined November 08, 2022
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@miau715@g0v.social 覺得這裡可以聊的有很多層~
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小孩會試探邊界。或者應該說,從小寶寶誕生開始,試探邊界就是學習這個世界的重要方式。所以在打頭這件事發生之前,教練的小孩可能已經試探過很多次邊界,然後才下定結論:可以打米奧的頭。
我想努力強調這不是在檢討受害人(被打頭的米奧),而是這是跟大人相處滿不一樣的地方。大人對於邊界的理解已經都有自己的結論了,如果有侵犯邊界的行為,我認為都是故意的;小孩不是無知的狀態,但很多時候,他們的理解是容易鬆動、不斷校正的(所以跟小孩相處很耗費心神)。
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然後,可不可以管教──我覺得「管教」的意義比較複雜,每個人對管教的概念方法程度都不同,所以我想先談單純一點的:可不可以對這件事有所反應?
我覺得這裡的答案一定是可以。一個人傷害了另一個人,或對另一個人做出了不尊重的動作,那被這麼對待的人有所反應很合理。米奧無論是要直接發飆或告狀或從此不理會教練的小孩,只要不是訴諸暴力,應該都算正常且合理。
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至於管教,五歲的小孩已經能理解很多事了。我記得女兒五歲時如果做錯事,我會像跟一般大人說話一樣跟他說話,讓他知道自己錯在哪裡,並且要求他道歉。大概可以拆成三個部分:
一、一起釐清剛才發生什麼事。如果是我誤會了他(也可能發生),那在這個階段就會弄清楚。如果我該道歉也會立刻道歉。
二、確定是他做錯事的話,跟他說哪裡做錯了。
三、要求道歉。
但米奧其實沒有管教的義務,也很難確定真的管教下去有沒有效果,因為有些東西是照顧者長期建立的。米奧不想做這些事的話,完全沒問題,這不是米奧的責任。米奧只需要決定怎麼反應就好。
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如果自己的小孩跑去打別人的頭讓我知道,我會很感謝讓我知道的人。就像上面說的,管教的部分不是義務,所以讓我有機會教好小孩應該感謝。
至於釐清剛才發生什麼事,這是照顧者的責任,也是照顧者的日常。如果有好好照顧小孩的話,已經做過很多很多次了,應該有信心釐清有沒有做錯事。
但如果米奧擔心這一點(小孩萬一不承認怎麼辦?)而選擇比較直接的反應的話,那也很合理,因為管教小孩不是米奧的責任。
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Little one hopped on stage to give me a big hug after our panel. This has been an amazing weekend. I want to write about the amazing people at BlizzCon, but I don’t think I can do it justice. Wifey and little one received so many acts of random kindness that I appreciate so, so much.
I didn’t plan to present as a panelist .. at my first BlizzCon, too! My original plan was to be a tourist and just chill. But sometimes life throws curve balls, and seeing little one so proud of me just makes all the hard work worth it.
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Sunny Flowerheart III approves
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@nightside@g0v.social @Yoxem@g0v.social @miau715@g0v.social @krvpb024@g0v.social 嗯,我覺得是呀。「原文」對我來說定義滿明確的,是創作時創作者使用的文字,以名字來說就看命名者用什麼,如果以片假名命名,那我覺得片假名就是原文
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Cars, link to personal site
https://dale.distract.org/scrawl/cars.html
I still miss Little Blue a whole lot
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parenting, gaming, mh (-)
Because I am a masochist, I downloaded #Everlife2 hoping to desensitise my .. sentimentality? (How to even describe this state?) With different names, different genders and life choices and family structures and everything, ofc. The end result was low phone battery and more sadness. In the end, I decided to give mum a call, but she was busy with class. And then I did the horrible maths to calculate the number of times that I get to share certain activities with certain people…… 
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bureaucracy
Dates lined up neatly - perhaps too neatly. Documents in flight at the mercy of international postal service. Lists, forms, folders. Trails of papers overlapping station names. Here is my proof of existence. Here is my name.
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是老了嗎,近年來對於不好約的人已經不是有沒有耐心之類的情緒,而是悲傷。我也不知道還剩幾次見面的機會。然後也對積極主動的人,尤其平常對各種事情不積極但為了能順利見面積極安排的人,充滿感謝
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工作
話說,這次回台北(因為微軟的神奇規定)會是人生第一次自己在外找空間遠端工作。希望能找到適合的地方~
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@Haikyoneko@famichiki.jp oh wow, that’s an impressive roster! Thank you for sharing it with me. It gives me some ideas
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OK, I really tried. There’s this one more group that I’ll maybe wait until next week, then I am done
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@Lironah@mstdn.games oooh book characters, good idea! Thanks Joan
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今天跟同事聊瑜珈,一邊聊一邊搜尋以前去過的做瑜珈,沒想到看到結束營業的消息……想念那裡的老師,那兩間教室接住我很多很多
疫情後,因為搬辦公室,做瑜珈變得離家和公司都遠,我再也沒回去上課。雖然寫信道別了,心裡仍希望能在某個冷冷天去拜訪老師,喝老師煮的奶茶,當面向他們說謝謝
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前陣子在健身房有不認識的住戶送了一張滿好的墊子,剛剛把墊子拿出來了
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Game industry hardship fund - 127 games for $10
https://itch.io/b/3802/game-industry-hardship-fund
Proceeds 100% go into supporting North American laid off workers in the union. Released by United Videogame Workers Union, a local 9433 of CWA and a 501(c)(5)
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Lawrence of Arabia, Netflix
Surprised to see this on Netflix so had to rewatch. Beautiful sceneries, yes, but what a phenomenal performance by London Philharmonic Orchestra. I am tempted to listen through it again with my eyes closed
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@raven@fedi.raventhemaker.com @checkervest@laserdisc.party what if you walk off with your stuff anyway and still pay them for August? Will that still break the contract? Technically you are still with them, just happens to have 0 stuff on display
Or….. have a single, bravest little guy stay behind… save all the others first
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@voyager@g0v.social I’m using names of supermarket.. Just made friend with Gelson’s lol
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physical appearance
Two different people commented on my back muscle. I worked hard, so I am feeling pretty good about this! 
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@retina01@mastodon.social I’ve seen that a couple of times here. At first, I did download, but it just didn’t make sense. The app would only work for one particular parking network, and there are many. There are usually one or two other ways to pay but still, app shouldn’t even be an option imo
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I created wifey and little one and … er, not sure what to create next. I don’t want to create RL friends because that’s a bit iffy (think Black Mirror). But if I don’t create more miis, my island doesn’t progress
And then I look at what my little one is doing. She has a bunch of miis. To be so free of social luggages…
#tomodachilife
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