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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Like the entire fascist uprising is because of the centering importance of white patriarchy and white people will complain about it here by literally saying how much it sucks that they are no longer protected by the structures of whiteness that used to protect them. Y’all legit don’t even see us. We’re like invisible.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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White people tend to have an expectation of centering and implicit respect. This is especially true of the white male experience. And this is something that has to be processed and re-interpreted by white trans femmes. Often, they reject it. We see this in the pattern of white trans femmes treating certain inconveniences as if they are extremely damaging and emotionally horrendous experiences. In truth, they probably are—to them—because they have rarely lived an existence where such experiences are normalized. It’s no surprise that the trans femmes who are most separatist are also often the ones who are most racist. They are simply holding on to the centering. Unless race is processed, this pattern tends to dominate. But it’s often seen (esp. by white cis women) as “male.” The better framing is “socialized in power.”

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Misgendering? That’s bread and butter for Black women, for Pacific Islander women. To treat it as if it’s an absolute moral failure when it happens to a white trans femme ignores the racial hegemony of the system. “I should never be misgendered” is a less effective statement if you never process whiteness because it’s whiteness that is effecting you in that moment. So often I see people map white trans femininity (or, rather, their rejectionist attitudes towards it) onto PoC trans women, as if our experiences are analogous. We neve had a chance to fit in to this society, so we come to trans femininity already de-centered. Living in a Black male experience was one where we were centered only as a threat or an other. At best, I was “exotic,” and fetishized. It’s simply a different experience. In a way, armored and prepared for othering.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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In my experience, most of the behavior patterns that drive the “socialized male” argument as a rejection of trans femininity are at least as much based in race as in gender. There is an aspect of centering that I honestly see more related to whiteness than femininity. I feel like this is further promoted by the visibility of white trans people in comparison to others.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Like we’re tolerated. We’re appreciated as like… comedy or teachers or sex objects. As something. But we are fundamentally not seen as people in the same way. Like as soon as we step out of line in the slightest, the attacks come.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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And whole-ass discussions will happen about white people as is other people do not even exist. Like the foundational structure of the discussion will be centered in whiteness and even pointing that out is a threat. Like don’t get uppity. It’s just so dark.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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That’s all literally shit I’ve been told. Like I learned cabinetry from a cis woman, but somehow if I do it it’s “men’s stuff.” I’ve been told I hate classical music because I’m a man (I had a subscription at the time to BBC Music Magazine, which sent a classical album every month.) I’ve been told I hate musicals because I’m a man (like I literally sing them all the time and still know the words to Mystery of Edwin Drood). In the weirdest twist, I was told I was still basically male because I love playing woman’s roller derby. Like how’s that even work?! There no winning. Like the amount of shit that gets mapped onto me as proof that I was “socialized male” is absurd, but if I fight one then there’s always One More Thing.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Another frustrating thing about this is the argument of “socialized male” so often comes with examples as proof that you are not a real woman. Like playing chess? Not a woman. Like sports? Not a woman. Like woodworking? Not a woman. Like building things in the yard? Not a woman. Like painting? Not a woman. Like cabinetry? Not a woman. Like cooking? Well you would be a woman but you cook complex things so not a woman.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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This is what I now affectionately call The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform, after another, more experienced, Trans woman saw me in it and said that I wasn't branching out and was only wearing clothes that were "plausibly deniable." But that's the thing, there was a power in that I desperately needed. The ability to wear actual women's clothing, and not fall on my face. I didn't have to wear a skirt, I didn't have a flowered shirt. I had basically the same clothes as before, just girl style. The Plausably Deniable Femme Uniform allowed me to do two things: Wear women's clothing everyday and start to crawl out of my dysphoria shell Experiment with other directions safely, while having a solid and safe base to work on. For instance… shoes!! #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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First thing to realize about jeans…You're not buying them off the rack anymore. Sorry, it just probably won't work. If you try on 37 different cuts and sizes in the store, you may get lucky and find one. Second thing: Unfortunately, you have to try on like 37 different cuts and sizes. Because every company makes them different. Third: Your waist is above your illiac crest now, not on your hips. It's gonna feel weird. You need to get used to high waist lines. Don’t wear your jeans low. It’s like an inch below your belly button, or AT your belly button. I know, I know, but trust me. Start doing that now. Get it over that belly. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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I’m not gonna lie. This will not be easy, and may break you. Entering the world of women's jeans is the closest I've ever come to entering the gates of hell. Trying to get used to women’s jeans is going to make you feel crazy. It's going to make you feel broken and wrong and like you don't belong. Repeat this mantra: This happens to all women. Literally, I had so many cis women come out to complain about how much jeans-buying sucked that it seemed to be an almost universal woman experience. There are so many cuts, so many size variations, it's like it's set up to make you crazy. So don't feel bad. It's going to suck. But there's hope… #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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I wore just woman's T-shirts for months. Not scoop neck, those look…too femme. I wore V-neck, or just regular crew neck. Mostly V-neck. They look "European" and "metrosexual." Nothing to see here. Where did I buy them? Your new friend: Thrift stores. In my tiny mountain town, there is one main thrift store, and it has literally rows of plain, colored, women's T-shirts. These are often V-neck or scoop neck. Sometime they have cap sleeves (Look it up). Thrift stores. Use them. No excuses. If I can find women’s T-shirts in my tiny town, they'll be in any bigger than 5000 people city. No designs, no frills. Plain V-neck woman's T-shirt. I bought as many colors as I could find, but started with brown and black until I was comfortable. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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It's going to take you a while to find jeans, and you need to find ones that fit your body and your style. This is where shit gets really dark. Because trying on women's clothes for the first few times is going to absolutely SUUUCK This is where you need someone else. Either a cis woman who loves you–and, more importantly, loves her femininity. Don’t fuck around with those white second-wave feminists who hate femininity. Find a cis woman who’s like “Fuck yes! Being a woman fucking rocks! Let’s get you looking femme!” Or find an experienced Trans woman. You need someone else there. Let me say this again: The first few times you are trying on women’s jeans, you need someone else there. The only thing more important than having someone else there is… HAVING SOMEONE ELSE THERE #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Coming from the land of men’s clothing, you don’t start with the scarf. You don't have to jump into femme clothes like diving! In fact, I would suggest many of you emphatically do NOT jump into femme clothes. I couldn't, because I had too much internalized transphobia and felt like a gorilla shaped man in a dress. Take small steps, not huge leaps. Because what you're trying to do is build confidence and a bank of positive experiences. Going out on day one in a sundress can go badly, and when it does, it pushes you backwards. Start small. Where I started was… T-shirts! #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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The first thing I did was wear women's T-shirts. I changed nothing but what type of T-shirts I wear. I traded in my men's T-shirts for boring women's T-shirts. That's it. Same shoes, same jeans, same everything. Seems dumb? It's not. First of all, women's T-shirts are cut different. But they are also colored different and they feel different. And that last part was important to me–ESPECIALLY since I started this after starting estrogen. If you haven’t done HRT and are planning to… realize that your men’s clothes will straight up HURT on estrogen. They feel like wearing burlap and sandpaper. Women’s cloths are just… softer, lighter, thinner. They feel very different. And that slight difference was huge for my mental health. They made me feel more femme. And the best part: nobody noticed or cared that I was wearing a woman's T-shirt. But I did. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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So, here it is is the Trans Femme Uniform for the first…oh, 8 months of my transition: Plain, one color, v-neck women's T-shirt High-waisted women's jeans That's it. That's ALL I changed. I wore jeans and T-shirts before, and I wore them for 8 months after. And NOBODY said ANYTHING. Most people never even noticed, or they told me “You look so nice!” You can make these changes TODAY. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Plain T-shirts in a thrift store, you can do by yourself. (even then, you may want someone else) But anything beyond that is impossible to do alone in the early stages. Why? Because Dysphoria won't let you. Everything you try on is going to look horrible and make you feel bad. You can't trust yourself. You need someone else there to say "Yes, that looks good" and even though you won't believe them, you have to trust them. And if they say “that doesn’t look good on you” you have to believe them, no matter how much you want to look cute in the skater skirt. But you also have to believe that it’s not YOU that is the problem, it’s fashion and society. (And eventually, you can probably get to the skater skirt). But you need someone else to see it. You can't see it yourself. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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You're size is going to be anything from a full size below that to a full size above. It sucks, but you just have to look keep trying. But, there is hope! I have really enormous feet (14-15), but I've found that Torrid has decent shoes up to a 15. And they're good shoes. I tried 7 pairs of 14s, all too small. Then I bought these cute booties I found because I fit in a 13 wide from Torrid. The 14s were too big, but the 13 fit, but I’m a size 14-15. Why? I DON'T KNOW! WOMEN'S SIZING IS DUMB!! https://www.torrid.com #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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After a couple months of wearing brown and black women's t-shirts, I moved to dark blue, then light blue, then purple, then pink, then pick with stripes, then abstract designs, then flower designs, then… This is the important thing: I kept wearing them. And every time I wore one, nothing happened. And every time nothing happened, I felt more confident. Finally, (About 3 months) I threw all my other T-shirts away and only had women's Ts. Eventually, the T-shirts became normal. It was just part of my look. I didn't think about it, and nobody else thought about it. At that point, I could make another change and it would be a small change. So I moved onto jeans. Okay, here's where shit gets dark… #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Gen X men are such absolute fucking trash. What the shit happened there?

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Now, some things to keep in mind when shopping for jeans: Women's clothes are not made of cardboard. Those old men’s 501 jeans you buy and live in are a COMPLETELY different animal. Women's jeans, like women's T-shirts, and women's anything else, are thinner, softer, and definitely not "rugged." You're going to think of them as "cheap," "flimsy," and "low-quality." But let me flip that. They are not (well, they sort of are, but that’s a whole other essay), they are feminine. And when you wear them, you will likely feel A LOT more feminine… this is a good thing. This is obviously mostly for the HRT crowd, but women's clothing is weirdly made for women's skin…and women's skin is thinner, softer, and drier. Women's clothing sits against that skin better. Don't think of it as "cheaper" but rather as "more comfortable." Because, at least to me, it really is. Putting on a pair of men's jeans feels like wearing burlap, now. Like, it literally hurts. Another thing to remember is women's jeans are cut…well…for women. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Also, go high waisted. Always. Sometimes I forget this and go low-waisted and it's a mistake. Sadly, T makes our body shape in the mid-section less than workable for low-waisted jeans, and that's a pretty dysphoric look. It accents the boy belly. But high-waisted pulls that in a bit and changes the look. It looks more like a femme paunch, and if you're like me, you're totally cool with having that bit of femme in your look. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Women's jeans are also meant to be tight. And straight talk: You probably have a penis, and very possibly have balls. That's a hefty wad of packaged meat in between your legs packed into tight jeans. Women don't have this, so their jeans are not cut to "hold" it. So either you tuck or, if you're like me and can't, you stretch the crotch out. There's not an option here. Tight jeans without a crotch paired with 3/4 pounds of beef is going to cause some stretch problems. Is a stretched crotch a reason to not wear women's jeans? No way. Not to me. I just know that my early jeans are… "sacrificial". Women's jeans just make me feel better. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Another place for tall women is Long Tall Sally. I still have the first pair of jeans I bought from them. Another high-waisted pair. https://www.longtallsally.com/ Note, with Brexit and the US turning into the nation-state equivalent of an angry toddler, shipping across lines has gotten a bit problematic, and American Tall is another place that’s was suggested, though I haven’t shopped with them. https://americantall.com #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@LunaDragofelis@void.lgbt I, of course, never implied that anyone deserves to be misgendered. My statement was that, as a class, Black folk, including cis Black folk, experience more oppression than white trans people ever will. But that the experience of many white trans people seems to be one of seeing those experiences as analogous–or, often, winning "the oppression olympics"–more than actually fighting the forces that imprison all of us. Since those forces still have a protective effect on them.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@nikhil@social.dezinezync.com @danirabbit@mastodon.online @swiftpune@mastodon.social I also started two software companies. I also joined, then led, then managed a critical safety software team the wrote software landing manned aircraft. And Intaught programming. I can’t talk about my grades because I only took physical science and math courses. And I was a solid C student. While I can say I did all that, I will also say it’s rare. For the most part, software interviewing is a masculinized in-crowd gatekeeping exercise. It’s not that things like grades (and courses and trivia and coding-style…) matter, it’s that they are usually more evidence that you are not One Of Us. That make it so hard for people, especially woman and BIPOC (like me) to break through the gates.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Wearing just jeans and a t-shirt, I was comfortable, I was safe, I was femme but not dangerously femme. Then I started looking at shoes. Well, I published a whole-ass essay about women's shoes, but suffice it to say… Sorry babe, it's back to the gates of hell for you. Same deal as pants. Women told me how they will try on 20 pairs of shoes, all in the same size, and maybe find one that fits. It's a nightmare. Made worse by T, which gives you huge women's sizes. Women's shoe sizes are basically 2 US/UK numbers above men's sizes. There are dozens of conversion tables out there. Get familiar. Measure your feet by putting your heel against a wall on a piece of paper and holding a narrow pen at your big toe. Get the size in centimeters and look it up. Then realize that, unless you're really lucky, you will never see this size in a women's shoe department. Gates. Of. Hell. #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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And, as much as this sucks, you have to try on A LOT of pants before you find a single pair that works. If you're tall like me, it's even harder, because everything is sized for the average woman's height. But there are some gems I've found. The first is Alloy Apparel. They specialize in clothes for tall women, and at 6'3" without any hips, I can say that their high-waisted skinny jeans are to die for! https://www.alloyapparel.com/ #TransFemmeClothing

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Queer WoC will be murdered specifically because of AI in dating apps and none of the rich white people running them will bat an eye as they cash those checks.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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Another great place I've recently bought shoes was Inkkas. They have 14 and 15 in more casual/hiking shoes, which I could not find elsewhere. And all of their stuff is cute! The thing about Inkkas is that it’s totally Plausible Deniability. You can wear those with any man’s clothing and nobody would notice. I bought a women's 14 in a hiking boot and even though I'm a wide in most women's shoes, they fit snug but comfortable. https://inkkas.com #TransFemmeClothing

inkkas.com

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Just saw something about a trans girl who apparently has a huge cock and my first response was to say “Yo give her my deets!”

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Unhinged Tyla has a new unhinged bio! Now with 37% more unhinged!

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

I need to find a nice girl…who’s only truly happy when her dick is in someone’s mouth.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

My server's profile bio limitation is 1000 characters which I find very anti-manic pixie dream girl. HOW CAN I BE AS ABSURD AS I TRUELY AM IN 1000 CHARACTERS?!

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

I’m the girl who texts you messages like “I have 20 minutes between meetings, can I give you a blowjob?”

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw to be clear, I didn’t see a thread about this that I remember, so there might be some embedded context of which I was unaware. I was actually talking about IRL events. But yes, that’s what I was getting at. It is a non-equatable experience that favors both whiteness and patriarchy.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

I deleted LinkedIn months ago, but feel like I should make a new LinkedIn profile called Tyla’s Tits, with a profile image of my tits. And the bio will all be breast measurements and bite desires and shit. “Mentor University, 2024: 675 ccu.”

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw @h3mmy@lgbtqia.space that’s some serious “why aren’t unicorns on the endangered species list?” shit there!

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Why do I not have access to a dick? I would be such a good dick caretaker. This is such a waste.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

A woman who has a hypnotic trigger embedded in me that makes me drop what I’m doing and suck her girldick until she cums. Then swallowing her cum is the wake trigger.

I remember everything, no matter how embarrassing, but a powerless to stop. When she uses the trigger, I need to drink her cum.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

RE: @twipped@twipped.social

Why does this feel like I will be served on a platter for paid consumption?

And the fact that it’s called Bee is so ironic considering Bee Davis fucking called it in Motion to be Seen.

twipped.social

Jocelynephiliac :reclaimer:: "> Last week, Bumble founder and CEO Whitney Wolfe…" - Twipped Social (Private)

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Is America great again yet?

https://abc7.com/post/food-distribution-event-baldwin-park-draws-long-lines-turned-away-runs/19094936/

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

RE: @nora@blob.love

No they are not talking about me, I checked,

blob.love

Nora Reed :kiln:: "i think its just as majestic as the grand canyon" - blob.love

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@Tessa@fandom.garden @Seirdy@pleroma.envs.net As someone who has lain naked on moss I do not have pictures but can give you witness testimony that it is very sexy

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

Might be time for me to burn down my profile and phoenix up somewhere else.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

· 4mo ago

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@robryk@social.wuatek.is Google “white centering” and read the stuff from POC authors. Or if you want a white voice read Robin DiAngelo, which is literally a collation of generations of Black authors.

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Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life

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@bridget@gts.sharitt.com @JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange this is the only app that my demisexual ass would find a sexual partner on.

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@Tessa@fandom.garden @Seirdy@pleroma.envs.net Whorerespondant!!! 🥰

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