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@Willow@chaosfem.tw I was not perimebopausal at that point, but I was older then a lot of things I've read (30) My biggest one I am confident in my voice. I am confident in how I sound when I speak. I had massive voice dysphoria with my speaking voice (I sang in a high soprano to give context) and that is gone (despite the fact that I've only dropped to low alto/high tenor)

@Zahlenzauberin@dresden.network @Willow@chaosfem.tw You will be able to sing the whole time, the first year might just be a little embarrassing while you get the feel for it

@Zahlenzauberin@dresden.network @Willow@chaosfem.tw I do not sing with people for scheduling reasons. I did keep up with vocal agility exercises from when I did, but I definitely still had some losses. For the first year or so I would get stuck flipping out of head voice (it's better now but not amazing or consistent roughly 4 years in). I've fully stopped having breaks when I sing now but still experience them when speaking. I've lost my ear for my own voice, but again that's a matter of retraining that I haven't done. I have also heard of people who maintained their soprano through transition but it was done with a vocal coach so ymmv.

@meluzzy You tried, that's the important part. Rest for now, then try again in a little while. Even if you only made it 5 seconds the first time, try for 6 next time. Trying is progress and you're doing a good job.

@meluzzy Gonna be honest, the only way I've found to fix these things is the 10 second method. Most people can do just about anything for 10 seconds (outside of things that will obviously cause harm). Get up and look out the window for 10 seconds. It's gonna suck and you're gonna have to force yourself, but it's only 10 seconds and you can do that. Then you get to go back to bed. Repeat that a few times, then pick a new thing. Get up and wash your face for 10 seconds. Open a book and read for 10 seconds. This helps you build stamina, energy and momentum to get you out of the stuck point at the bottom of depression. And it sucks and it's bullshit but it's better then nothing.

@Willow Somehow every time something improves, I'm surprised by this outcome. Every single time.

@CharlotteEowyn Bearing in mind I haven't bought a real bra since the 2010s (maybe earlier), but the ex girls were bottom heavy and if my nose was pointing north my nips could be used to find east and west Lasenza used to have a bra that had gel cushioning on the outer edge of the cup to push things in and up. It almost looked like a jelly bean shape on the outer edge of the inside of the cup and it was magic. I will browse their website to see if I can remember what it was called and if it still exists The other thing that was helpful was bras with crossed straps

@Tattie@eldritch.cafe I don't know how to make the math work, but none of those sections are big enough lol @Willow@chaosfem.tw

@jepyang@wandering.shop @PurpleStephyr@thetransagenda.gay It us

@CharlotteEowyn I can chime in! I'm agender but also refer to myself as transmasculine - to me it's a descriptor of the direction I'm going/the medical and social changes I have and am making - not necessarily an identity label, but a descriptor of a series of actions Obviously different for everyone, and I know lots of NBs that don't like to refer to the "direction" they're transitioning,, but that's my 2 cents. Eta- auto correct initially said "I'm a gender" when I, infact, meant the direct opposite @lda

@taedryn Gender-independent? That's all I can think of off the dome. I'll see what else I come up with.

@CharlotteEowyn I can't find it on their website, but they don't show pictures of the inside of the cup, so I can't tell if they just changed the name. The hello sugar/up 2 cups look similar fit wise but I'm not 100%

@jascha Yesterday I was a 3 Today is a 1.

@vagina_museum That it wasn't normal to get it at 8. That I had a right to medical intervention. That the pain wasn't normal.

@deepmud@mas.to You are in a thread of trans people telling you you're wrong. You know what ally behaviour is? Shutting the fuck up and doing better next time. Do you need what you did wrong explained and guidance to make better choices next time like a kindergartner, or are you able to do it yourself like a grown ass adult? @forestine@sunny.garden

@ratsnakegames@mastodon.social One correction - the politicians ARE geriatrics in an... uncomfortably large number of instances. They're not worried about becoming elderly, they already are and won't pass legislation that removes their power. @eniko@mastodon.gamedev.place

@vv@solarpunk.moe I say they're easy to open But if you had asked me like...6 months ago I wouldn't have known how So do with that what you will