PSA if you transitioned midlife, I strongly recommend you research insecure attachment styles, because you probably have one, and it’s probably connected to why you didn’t transition as a child.
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Vivian, Venus Pirate 🏳️⚧️🧋
@Willow@chaosfem.tw
mastodon 4.7.2+glitchMom, Early 40s. Home Cook. Queer baddie, anarcho-feminist writer, asexual dancer. I do hot girl shit (cry a lot, process my feelings, hold space for others) and I take needle drugs (#FeminizingHRT and #PrEP).
I do Data Engineering in exchange for money, but find me over at @willow_datawitch@hachyderm.io if that’s your jam.
Please interact with words, not just boosts and favorites, if you would like to follow me. I appreciate your button clicks! But I need words for vibe checks.
I think joy is way more important than I was taught in school.
I categorize some toots thusly:
#EstrogenLog, #EstrogenLogLabs, #WillowsFacialDysphoria, #WillowsTransDiscoveries, #InSqueeNews
My Essays: #ThingsYouCantUnsay
570 Followers
472 Following
50 Posts
Joined May 13, 2023
Pronouns:
She/Her
HRT Day:
2023-07-14
Nouns:
Woman, mom, girl
Adjectives:
Trans, lesbian, asexual, polyamorous, vanilla
TFW you practice #polyamory on fedi, and you slowly realize you should avoid picking pointless fights on the internet because there’s a solid chance many of these people will end up as your telemetamours.
Don’t shame fash for their bodies, or their kinks, or their disabilities, or whatever. That’s lateral violence on folks you know.
Fucking shame them for being cowardly fash.
I borrowed a house, and had my first parenting-overnight with the kids! #Divorce
Seriously, it’s really weird recognizing yourself in the “girl being yearned for/sung about/desired/mourned” in lesbian songs.
Sometimes I think cis people forget that trans people are real live heroines and heroes with backstories that are astonishing, and they just want to live a cozy little life full of joy. Where do cis people think good stories come from?
It’s raining in Autumn and I’m at loose ends. Clearly I should be snuggling a gay girl.
Why would you have lower standards for someone who has hurt you for decades than you would for a stranger?
I’m learning that along with more people to love, #polyamory brings more fretting about the safety of those more people.
Distance is transphobic, I wanna be in bed with my girlfriends.
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Like, maybe it’s on a block that just lost a couple tenants, and in book 4 they add a library, and in book 9 an event space that hosts trans dance party night every Thursday.
Dear cis people, more trans people will be born. They’ll be your children and grandchildren. They’ll learn our history. And they’ll learn what you did or didn’t do, when we needed you.
I just spent five minutes watching an air fryer work its convectiony magic on a leftover grilled cheese sandwich for the first time, and NGL, it was awesome.
Periodic offer to try to organize a trans group chat on signal about:
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parenting,
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processing issues with spouses or family,
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working-while-trans,
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oh-goddess-I-need-a-group-chat,
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or polyamory support (talking and processing, not looking for dates).
If you are interested, reply on this thread and indicate which you are interested in. My preference is for ya’ll to self-organize, but I’ll step in if I feel it would help.
Is anyone else super gay for the vampire Kate Beckinsale plays in Underworld?
Genocide includes erasing a people’s history.
Age verification is an act of genocide against queer people.
Classifying our writings and media as pornography simply BECAUSE we are queer is an act of genocide against queer people.
Lower Decks. @batkaren@mastodon.online
ProTip: if you wanna text someone to ask them on a date and you don’t wanna feel like you are hovering over your phone jumping at every spam offer and shipping update, waiting on that ONE TEXT you want to see, text a whole bunch of friends and strike up conversations so you have other interesting and uplifting reasons to be checking your phone.
“Treat others the way you wish to be treated” is such a fucked up aphorism. Other people are different, you have to actually LISTEN to them.
discussion of consent, discussion of coercion, tickling, analogy to sexual assault, hot take
Berenstain bears and the trouble with heteronormativity.
Boosted by @GroupNebula563@mastodon.social
#AskFedi Does anyone know of an accessible english language narrative history of the persecution of queer people in Nazi Germany in the 1920s/30s/40s?
I’m looking for something that can ground my vague understanding of Nazi genocide against queer people. I’ve picked up some of it as community tradition and tales, but if someone has done some scholarship, I’d like to add that to my knowledge.
Hi, #TransMasc friends! #HRT question for you (that I’m passing on from someone on fedi who is considering starting T):
Can you please describe the experience of how T has affected you, particularly if you started it when you were perimenopausal?
(Also, I love the joyful threads about how being on the right hormones feel, so go ahead and overshare a bit! Or share struggles, whatever feels right 🥰 
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Thank yooooooou!
Polyamory: because some of us are more than a handful.
Sometimes my presentation feels like performance art. I go to the club in a crop top and fuck-me heels, with my legs bare ankles to halfway up my ass. I’m sex repulsed ace - I’m literally never “asking for it.”
No one is *ever* “asking for it.”
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@thriftwicker@mastodon.social okay but firstly, most felons in the US are black folk who are guilty of being alive near cops, and secondly clowns and other circus folk are by and large lovely people. So let’s not engage in casual lateral violence, and instead go with making pedophiles and fascists not exist.
@oldladyplays@wargamers.social
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@alice@lgbtqia.space Bookmarked! This is a great description of flirting.
I just totally did a bunch of posing and smiling in a mirror because my face is fucking gorgeous. How did I get this *hot!?*
Maybe it’s natural. Maybe it’s estradiol.
But I repeat myself.
Concept: lesbian solarpunk bookstore that shelves all contemporary romance under “dystopian” and all contemporary straight romance under “dystopian, horror”
If I could go back to #EggCrackMinusFiveYears, I would give me such a long hug. That’s what she needed, so fucking bad, right then. She needed an experience of non-transactional, non-conditional touch. Also, like, I’m a total baddie, it woulda blown her mind.
Does anyone have good, non-AI written, not-super-violent hyperpop song recommendations? Bonus points for “coder girl slice of life” or “mecha girl” themes.
(I enjoy some Charli Morgan like “Lip Gloss and Lasers” but a lot of it veers a bit too into blowing up people for my taste.)
If a werewolf girl gets electro in human form, does she have bald patches in the corresponding place in wolf form?
Hi cis people! Happy pride! Today #SCOTUS ruled that trans people can fuck off and die.
I know you haven’t personally watched any trans people kill themselves, but we are suffering even if you don’t observe it firsthand. Please do accept that this is genocide; I’d like to say “this is how it starts” but we’re well past that now.
Please #boost, call your reps to tell them to support bodily autonomy and #trans rights, and go here to oppose a trans gag rule: https://chaosfem.tw/@Willow/116677938540135680
#uspol
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@themediumkahuna@tech.lgbt Food orders are such a good place to try names!
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“But Vivian, what are doing to fight the Empire?”
I am not ONLY the mascot, I’m ALSO out here drawing fire, so could the fucking cishets PLEASE get their shit together and overthrow partriarchy?
I’m ace; I’m on PrEP because it’s one less thing to worry about when the weather outside is fash-y.
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@aSweetGentleman@mstdn.social @Zahlenzauberin@dresden.network TIL.
Specifically, TIL that’s specifically a T thing.
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@oldladyplays@wargamers.social Oo, my #TransJoy was hanging out with an aroace enby last night, as we lived our best fucking lives and looked beautiful (me) and handsome+gorgeous (them; they rock the “Gender? I’ll have both!” look). They (and others, but especially they) spent like half an hour tearing apart some white men over dinner. It was glorious.
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@Dani@mastodon.sandwich.net Gorgeous!!!
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@EmilyGB2023@chaosfem.tw I mean, the consent alone would make me swoon!
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@cf@todon.eu Hunh. I only edited it once; I wonder which bit of fedi machinery multiplied it?
I’m on a Toot! client, and I think the server I’m on uses vanilla mastodon.
Did anyone else get repeats?
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@therivercrow@bardicperspiration.club The struggle is reeeeeeal.
uspol call to action, if you have the spoons for such things
mh (+), psych meds (personal experience, few months, +)
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@dee@social.treehouse.systems shout out to @babe@glitterkitten.co.uk - they paint SFW adorable animals and abstract particle trails, while they themself are in undies on OnlyFans.
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@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life YES! Thank you! THIS!
bottom surgery, dilation, lube question