David Howell

@monkeyninja@10base2.dev @Xibanya@mastodon.xyz My partner - loosely identifying as cis at the time and as nonbinary now, but basically their gender is "I have one?" - wore a kilt on our wedding day, specifically because it was the overlap of "acceptable as formalwear" and "acceptable for their sensory intolerance of lower leg fabric" (they also have Scottish family ties, but that just meant having a tartan choice made!) I - loosely identifying as cis both then and now - wore a metallic blue circle skirt and a navy corset (over a pale yellow shirt). That got coded as transgressive, but it was at least as sensory-driven as the kilt - "skirt go spinny" wasn't an egg crack, it was a no-context stim just like the wearable hug of the corset and the joy of seeing the skirt fabric catching the light! Questioning my gender affirmed that it's very likely the initially assigned one, but that this is secondary to my autistic sensory issues.

@patterfloof@meow.social @leeloo@c.im @mahryekuh@hachyderm.io @randahl@mastodon.social It's probably singlehandedly enough to justify the absence of the feature there tbh

@pastelfluffyfox@meow.social @zzt@mas.to Because they are who we thought they were?

@filmfreak75@mastodon.social @autismunicorn@autistics.life @autistics@fedigroups.social The only truly tough problem I've ever had with being lonely has been a lack of hugs to be honest 😂 I've hardly left the house this decade (to my knowledge I'm not immunocompromised but between my anxiety, sensory issues, and awareness that #CovidIsNotOver I've been acting as if I am!), but this hasn't been a problem because I have my (also autistic, also likes deep pressure) partner and, by implication, I have about as many hugs as our mutual heat sensitivity allows 🤣 #ActuallyAusquishtic

@recursive@hachyderm.io @Xibanya@mastodon.xyz For a start, "my assigned-gender presentation is sensory hell" is something that will apply to quite a lot of autistic people. For some of them, it'll be what cracks their egg - which probably explains at least some of the oft-weaponised autistic/cisn't correlation - but for others, they'll still be that assigned gender but feel the urge to present otherwise to a greater or lesser extent.

@stekopf @Phracker2Art @elmiller0330 @KatyElphinstone Definitely the ANALYSE ALL THE THINGS tendencies will shape how our interests work! And this will extend to all kinds of fields, including typically-NT-coded fields like sports...

@qurlyjoe@mstdn.social @dinobelbo@mastodon.online @autistics@fedigroups.social @actuallyadhd@fedigroups.social Fellow British bat-eared autistic reporting - there *are* Costcos in the UK (including a few outer London locations) although IDK how much product overlap there is with North America! Which is annoying given their membership model...

@lapis@elekk.xyz @autismunicorn@autistics.life I've also mostly made friends online, although I ended up marrying one of them 😂 Just being able to have interests rather than geography be the filter has been significant enough - I met my partner in game show fandom - but having this interest-led communication also be text-based helps even more. I did make in-person friendships at university, but even then, this was most often from societies, so again the interest filter applied.

@Pkbwood @StaceyCornelius As a nocturnal autistic introvert who also has oversensitive ears and aversions to bright light - I just came back from a post-11pm grocery run wearing mirrored sunglasses! - I find this very relatable 😂🦇 #BatuallyAutistic

@monkeyninja@10base2.dev @Xibanya@mastodon.xyz Sounds stimmy and very OK 🖤

@Xibanya@mastodon.xyz In my case that was "I will unapologetically shop in whichever clothing department has the Good Sensory, and quite often that'll be the women's one for the softer, shinier fabric" My transmasc AuDHD muse does the same thing for the same reason!

@VeroniqueB99@mastodon.social "Wait it's all genocide?" "Always has been"

@Xibanya@mastodon.xyz Conversely, being low, light, and fast is something your voice shares with racing cars. Which feels like it's closer to Shitposter Energy

@Xibanya@mastodon.xyz I faching love this, pun intended

@imrehg@fosstodon.org @QasimRashid@mastodon.social Considering the network in question here is the Ellison-owned Conservative Broadcasting System...