I've made a number of posts about flirting, and I often get replies/DMs from guys that ask "how do I flirt with women in a non-creepy way".
I've written a good bit about all the DOs and DON'Ts of approaching women, but I left at least one thing out, and I don't know how it took this long for me to write a post about it 😅
TATTOOS.
If you like queer/alt/badass women (and I mean who doesn't?), then I have four words for you...
"I love your ink."
Then you briefly gesture to your favorite visible piece, smile, and leave it at that.
As far as I know, most folx aren't born with neat tattoos, so that likely means they consciously put them there. A lot of thought, time, money, and pain goes into getting permanent body art, so this makes it an ideal thing to compliment. If they're displaying ink, then it was almost certainly made to be seen. It's personal, meaningful, and it's safe because it follows the rules:
- something they chose (not something they are)
- something they put effort into
- something that's self-expression or expertise
- something that's not objectifying
If you need a follow-up, (if it's recent work) "where'd you get it?".
- I'm pretty clueless abt ppl flirting.
- You really are, Elle!
you are so, so right.
