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@Melezioh@mstdn.games
mastodon 4.6.9I’m a trans man that is into gaming, baking, law, politics, and anime. Bipolar. Audhd. Ball of anxiety. Sober.
I have a juris doctorate and am licensed. I do not give legal advice.
I have follow requests on. If you have a profile and such I’ll probably approve. I get a lot of those blank profiles and no followers requests.
I have post deletion on for 1 month. I post regularly but decided I would try post deletion again.
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Joined February 10, 2023
Game:
dead by daylight
Anime:
Death Note
Playing:
Assassin’s Creed Black Flag Resynched
Pronouns:
He/him only
What is fully transitioned? I see people say that sometimes and to me is there really a point where you go okay I’m complete? I mean yea eventually you get done with surgeries if you have access or never wanted them. You get through puberty if you take hrt but most people stay on it thr rest of their lives. I dunno. I haven’t had that wake up moment and just said aha I’m fully transitioned. I will always be different than a cis man. I do still have a surgery left so maybe I’ll have that moment after?
I do not question that I am a man or am seen as a man. I am a man. So in that sense I’m complete but I was a man and presented as such for several years before all my surgeries and was a full man then too.
The enemy in feminism is the patriarchy and toxic masculinity.
Not men.
Read that again.
Men also suffer under patriarchy and plenty of women reinforce toxic masculinity in men.
Hating men is not in fact part of feminism.
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I see plenty of posts about drinking water in the extreme heat people are experiencing. Often water is not enough if you’re in the heat and sweating, you need to replenish electrolytes. So sports beverages. Pickles and pickle juice are great too. You still need water, not just the sports drinks, but not just water often times.
If you’re a trans masc or trans man or anyone actually and ever have questions about top surgery (I either had per-areolar or key hole), hysterectomy, meta (I had everything done, urethral lengthening, scrotum created but never implants as I went to phallo), or phallo (had everything done, urethral lengthening, scrotum, had a stricture and fistulas, waiting to have rod implant and testicular implants) feel free to ask or direct people to me. I like talking about them.
Anyways I figure it’s almost pride month so I’ll offer my experience.
Happy Caturday from Ronald
Per the Illinois Lt Governor. New trans positive laws in Illinois include:
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Removing testosterone from its list of controlled substances (hb 4834).
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Enshrines self selection process for gender markers on State IDs & drivers licenses. (Hb 5095).
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Requires insurance companies to cover up to six months of prescribed hormone therapy. (Hb 5492).
Go Illinois.
Makes me more committed to move there!
My partner said she would never move north, even for my safety. So I planned to move on my own eventually. Now she’s applied to some dream job in a conservative northern state. Called her out via text as I found out via social media.
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@mjdxp@labyrinth.zone I mean yea. It probably has to do with many of us grew up being subjects of misogyny rather than benefiting from patriarchy. Also being trans, we understand otherwise being marginalized so it’s a different perspective on life. Cis hetero white guys are used to being in power and benefitting from patriarchy. Just my thoughts.
Edit: at the end of the day we just need to hold men accountable rather than just saying they are inherently evil or bad because of hormones or anything else.
Nutmeg (Meg) queen of the upstairs explored the kitchen this morning.
I leave trans fems to discuss their thoughts on the whole socialized male thing and have learned a lot but don’t argue against the whole socialized a gender situation. I was very much socialized female and it still affects me a decade into my transition. I don’t know a trans masc that denies being female socialized.
Sony updated its terms of use sometime earlier this year, I think. This section just really came to light now with the announcement of Sony going full digital. Sony can close your account permanently, irreversibly if you haven’t logged in for 36 months. They must try to contact you first but if no response then they can close everything and you will permanently lose access to all your digital games.
Is this a likely thing for a gamer to do? No, but it is possible. Say you got locked up for a period or something. Could lose your whole collection.
https://comicbook.com/gaming/news/ps5-playstation-games-psn-account-terminate/
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@greensofshade@mastodon.social my point is if you just say men are inherently bad or testosterone is evil or something then there’s nothing to be done and that’s not true. Men can and should do better. Testosterone isn’t evil it does not cause bad behavior. Men are responsible for their own actions. Thanks. Nothing about me being a man makes me inherently bad.
Today I got some stuff accomplished. Returned the hub for the old internet. Went to the bank to transfer money from my card to my bank account so I could pay the mortgage. Paid the mortgage.
Then I took a nap and now I’m working.
Glad I got the hub turned in. It’s a $200 charge if not returned within a month and my adhd self could have ended up with that charge.
Socialized as a trans mascs 1/2
A Texas children’s hospital is being forced to open and fun a detransition clinic as part of a settlement agreement. They maintain they broke no laws but basically got sick of fighting in court. Which is a loss for trans people.
Opening such a clinic bolsters claims that any significant percent of people detransition and that transitioning is harmful.
Note, about 1-3% of people that transition detransition. This holds true in youth. Different reports Lin it but all very low and well below the regret rates of most of not all other medical care.
Day 3 of remembering to wear my glasses. I have misplaced them multiple times but they are on my face. Also kind of spike my hair up. It’s really short but I kinda like it spiked.
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@enthusiast101@ieji.de yea I get you. I’m a trans man so I had to learn those boundaries. What was once okay for me to do or say, how close I could comfortably be to a woman without freaking them out all changed when I transitioned.
I’m also audhd and socially awkward and an anxiety ball so that just made me more unsure and awkward, but ah well.
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@Liza@lgbtqia.space that would be frustrating. It’s even worse when it is coming from the community.
The poor 42 lb/19 kg dog is being blocked by the 8 lb/3.6 kg cat. Rosie wants to come see me but the cat is laying in the walkway and gave her a warning meow, meaning I’ll smack you if you pass. So now poor Rosie is sulking in her crate.
There was a big PlayStation network outage yesterday, leaving players unable to launch digital games. This highlights another issue with digital games just weeks after Sony announced its all digital future.
https://www.ign.com/articles/sonys-nightmare-month-gets-worse-as-playstation-network-goes-down-leaving-fans-unable-to-play-digital-games-just-weeks-after-killing-disc-controversy-erupted
Although a large majority of gsmes sold on PlayStation 5 are digital, like 90 some %, almost 3/4’s of PlayStation 5 owners in the US paid extra for the console with the disc drive. Also, some people that have bought digital only will have bought the separate disc drive.
So players still want the option to play physical games.
https://www.thegamer.com/disc-drive-ps5-more-popular-digital-only-console/
EA head of advertising essentially says games should prepare in-game ads ahead of time and how that would benefit the industry.
In-game ads? Seriously? Claims of not breaking immersion with the ads seems rather unlikely. How are you going to fit an ad into my game that takes places hundreds of years ago?
Do you think in-game ads are inevitable? They definitely shouldn’t be in an $80 game. I spend that much and you want to advertise at me?
https://tech4gamers.com/planning-for-ads-during-development-ea/
You know, since getting a dick and being able to stand to pee I now see videos pushed to me telling you to sit to pee. That standing to pee is bad for bladder health.
Not happening.
Though I did learn you’re not supposed to push to pee. That was news to me. That I can work on.
Voicemail transcript has my name as “Milenio” today. Kinda sounds cool actually. Still prefer my real name.
People didn't understand why I didn’t just go with “Mel” as that’s what I’ve always gone by and still go by but I wanted a full name.
Plus my name is just cool. Even though I’ve had people ask me if it’s made up because it’s apparently not a common name.
Even if I had made it up, theres nothing wrong with that.
My name is just”Melezio” by the way. I just add the “h” for my gamer tag and carried it over to here.
Cyberpunk 2077 had sold 40 million copies, outpacing Witcher 3 sales by 10 million copies in the same time frame.
After its terrible release I never picked up my ore-order and never even picked up the game until the Switch 2 release where I picked it up since it was a release title. I did enjoy the game but still leaves a bad taste after the botched release.
https://tech4gamers.com/cyberpunk-2077-40-million-copies/
Am I awake at 1:45 am after sleeping for 3 hours last night and having a 2 hour nap? Yep. Mid day naps are normal for me so that shouldn’t be keeping me up but I’m wide awake.
Maybe I’ve got a bit of hypomania going on, but then I was able to nap per usual. I have been really chatty though, well for me, and to my partner and online. Hm.
And being told I’m toxic because I wouldn’t budge on it being transphobic….
That means it is time to block.
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@argentum@mas.to @BriBear@blahaj.zone @crazyeddie@mastodon.social making men like women is not meant to say there is anything wrong with being a woman. However not everyone are women and forcing them to be so is wrong. Talk about traits you see common in women that men could benefit from. As a trans man I lived as a woman, I am not a woman. I am your typical masculine guy but not toxically masculine. I am in touch with my feelings and cook and clean and stop when someone says no. That doesn’t make me feminine in any way.
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@crazyeddie@mastodon.social maybe you are equating things that are not inherently feminine as feminine? I don’t see why men should be feminized and only see that as harmful especially how it’s generally meant when a woman says it.
I’m scratching my head so hard I have to vaguely post about it.
Not as in my head itches. As in what is that person talking about.
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@argentum@mas.to @BriBear@blahaj.zone @crazyeddie@mastodon.social thanks. I will definitely take that into consideration in future posts. I’m always trying to be clearer so as not to be misunderstood.
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@kittyboy77@tech.lgbt @argentum@mas.to @BriBear@blahaj.zone @crazyeddie@mastodon.social fair. Honestly if it is a trans fem then I generally leave it to another trans fem to correct them or teach them better as they won’t listen to me. I am the enemy. I won’t report them or anything. I’ll usually make a post and hope they see it or a trans fem I know saw the post and will say something. If you can do better than that then that’s cool too.
Cis women need to be called out on it too, of course and they are out there just the same.
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@ryker_rf5@void.rehab yea that’s basically what I was trying to say. There’s nothing inherent about being a man or masculine that makes men bad or evil, and saying men are evil and such really does just kinda give the tone of well that is it men are bad. Nothing to be done. But men can and should do better.
Latest numbers show more like 75% of staff at Id software was laid off by Xbox rather than the initial 50% estimated.
Id software is responsible for Doom and Quake and has a Doom Dark Ages dlc coming out soon.
Can the studio even keep going at 25% capacity? Concerned about the future of Doom, which I’ve played since elementary school.
https://www.thegamer.com/id-software-layoffs-xbox/
@joandaro@mstdn.games nah. I get where you’re coming from and I understand why you use ai. As I say, different circumstances. Which is why I don’t say much on ai, partly to understanding your perspective.
It’s just these people had no say in this facility being placed near them. It is actively harming them, their environment, and their health. These are very real people being impacted by an unregulated system. Just something to think about.
Ultimately yes, we just really need regulation. Unfortunately I don’t see that happening in this country with the current administration and all the while these people are harmed.
I agree other industries are also harmful but this one currently particularly is bad. Something needs to be done.
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@kittyboy77@tech.lgbt @argentum@mas.to @BriBear@blahaj.zone @crazyeddie@mastodon.social honestly it’s straight up toxic and needs to be shut down. Many are trans fems that are anti-trans masc. Not all but there are plenty of them. I don’t feel like they need to be treated gently and have hand holding. Curious why you think so?
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@TrueNorthSpice@mastodon.world I read the article. Sorry for responding before reading but I thought I could clear some things up initially. The stats are not surprising I knew many of them and I’ve lived it and experienced the violence and know plenty of others that have too.
What do you mean by “ Please do not assume I make such comments, and I resent your implication I gave a nod of approval in that direction because you're reading into my reply something that does not exist.” I do not understand your meaning here.
The whole point of my post was that it only does harm saying those things because it insinuates there is something essentially and inherently wrong with men and masculinity and there isn’t. Men aren’t inherently bad, that takes responsibility away from men. Men can and should do better. Men should hold each other accountable.
I never said it wasn’t mens responsibility to do the work, to do better. So I’m confused why you’ve taken issue with my post and posted the article. Could you elaborate?
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@oldladyplays@wargamers.social thanks! Bottom surgery is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Huge euphoria all the time with it. Worth all the surgeries and recoveries.
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@oldladyplays@wargamers.social I finally scheduled what should be my last stage of bottom surgery and am thrilled even though it is six months away. I first had bottom surgery 3.5 years ago and started gender affirming surgeries 5 years ago. So it’s been a long road.
Edit: the specific amazing joy I still get every time I get to stand to pee with my own plumbing. It took 5 surgeries but I can pee in a urinal now. Will be glad when it’s all complete soon!
Sad my small dick post didn't take off like my other trans masc post. Some people just can’t let go of the small dick comments. It’s harmful for all men but is also transphobic.
We should stop degrading people based on physical attributes.
My partner when she understood that I got a steelbook from GameStop:
You went all that way for a box?
It is an important box thank you very much.
(It was about 30 miles/48 km and a 45 minute drive each way and I was stuck in the store half an hour or so).
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@argentum@mas.to @BriBear@blahaj.zone @crazyeddie@mastodon.social yes. What I was referring to is literally forcing feminizing hormones on men or feminization of men. It’s a thing that gets talked about on here both seriously and jokingly. As a trans man especially, those people can screw off. There is nothing wrong with being masculine and a man.
Also, what you are calling feminizing I am not. I agree men should be in touch with their emotions but that’s a human trait not a feminine one. Men should be helpful in the home and raising of children but again not feminine.
Feminizing like forcing men into dresses, taking hormones, making them like women.
@joandaro@mstdn.games yea there are means to get it without parents knowledge, so there is the possibility a kid transitions without their parents permission.
Ultimately though it is torture to unwillingly detransition someone as was said. I don’t see how a doctor who must swear to do no harm could forcefully detransition a child against their will and not break that oath though, or sleep at night.
I dunno. It’s just bad.
If a place has to have one yea, at least it’s a legitimate hospital but nothing good can come of it.
Two buds hanging out