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Hi! I'm an oldish cis het software developer, married to Helen. I've recently discovered that I'm #ActuallyAutistic.

This is an alt of @CppGuy@infosec.space . Helen is Mrs Wife.

If you have something in your profile, I'll generally accept your follow request. I don't always follow back; you needn't follow back if you don't want to.

Avatar is a genuine photo of a Jersey street sign, which says "Hill Street" in English and "Three Pigeons Road" in French, signifying absurdity.

Stimming playlist (which I need to rework, now that Songwhip is gone): <https://write.as/fediman/songs-to-play-on-repeat>

167 Followers

69 Following

8 Posts

Joined April 02, 2024

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Science, reason, medicine, vaccines, masks, Free software, tolerance, goodwill, honesty, respect

Against:

Partisanship, contempt, closed-mindedness, Brexit

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 6mo ago

Replying to

@StarkRG @jonm Autistic man here. Unambiguous communication is really appreciated. No one's a mind-reader, but #ActuallyAutistic people are worse at it than others. It's not just a matter of avoiding ambiguous words, either: please include all the information in your head that might be relevant. My wife Helen doesn't do this — every time she opens her mouth to speak, she leaves out one central piece of information — and it drives me scatty sometimes.

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 2mo ago

Replying to

@FknHannu@zeroes.ca That's all very familiar. Because of my professional background, I think of it as having to do in software what neurotypical people do in hardware. We're cognitively running rings round the other people in the room while they're standing there and faintly wondering what's wrong with us. It's no wonder our CPUs run hot — that social interaction is exhausting (even if we find it stimulating and enjoyable) and we need time to recover afterwards.

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@irene@discuss.systems Cool. 🙂 @feff@comicscamp.club @device@infosec.exchange

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@feff@comicscamp.club @irene@discuss.systems @device@infosec.exchange Autistic man here. Soft skills are harder for us. But they're also essential. If you can't explain, convince, gracefully give way, urge, cajole, genuinely listen, pick your battles, respect differences, and back off when someone is vulnerable, you'll never be good at your job, even if it's in hard engineering. There are very few good jobs for people who don't want to deal with people, and engineering is not one of those jobs.

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 23mo ago

@Romy@tech.lgbt

Hi, Romy! Belatedly, welcome to the Fediverse.

Did you know you can follow hashtags here? If you follow the #ActuallyAutistic hashtag and the @actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe group, you'll find lots of other autistic people to chat with. I'll hope to see you around.

@AndHuman@tech.lgbt

tech.lgbt

Romy He/Him (@Romy@tech.lgbt) - LGBTQIA+ and Tech

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@irene@discuss.systems Er, this wasn't special pleading on behalf of #ActuallyAutistic people: it was my way of acknowledging that soft skills are hard for us but we can't opt out of them. Are you reading something into my message that I didn't put there? (We get that a lot.) @feff@comicscamp.club @device@infosec.exchange

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@Flowermob@mastodon.social I don't think you do. /jk

ND Dev @nddev@infosec.space

· 2mo ago

Replying to

@ninelives@sunny.garden Welcome, both to the Fediverse and to the UK! Great to have you on board.