Ok people are misusing the term "cognitive dissonance" again!
I meant to do this rant years ago. So here goes.
Phrases like, "Boy, MAGA must sure be feeling cognitive dissonance today!" are not only using big words with total ignorance about what they mean, but they're helping promote the kind of ignorance that helps cults retain followers.
Manipulation of the natural mental balancing act between cognitive dissonance and consonance is the core of how people get trapped in cults. People stay stuck in MAGA *because* MAGA influencers have created a complicated maze in their followers' minds that wards off THEIR ABILITY TO FEEL the dissonance one normally would when confronted with facts and basic human empathy.
Mind control completely subverts the mind's natural process for righting itself in the face of disconfirming information.
Events like this assassination (and all its surrounding discourse) have been pre-primed in the MAGA mind to cause them CONSONANCE. Almost anything you say or do to point out what to *you* feels like dissonance, will to them only enforce the reasons they are correct in their worldview.
This of why it's so incredibly difficult to get someone out of a cult, and why folks who leave cults find it so difficult to decondition from the cult's influence, even after they stop believing in its core ideology.
And why I wrote a book to help people do that.
And why one of the first things I explain in Recovering Agency is how cognitive dissonance/consonance theory works, citing Leon Festinger who developed the theory starting in the 1950s.
I will explain this theory in the next post... right after breakfast.
Because it explains how your mind works to accept and reject beliefs. Knowing this gives you awareness of your own mental processes, and can maybe empower you with Fox-watchin' Uncle Bob, who used to be a guy who cared, way back in '98.
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#AbuseCulture #cults #MAGA #psychology #ReligiousTrauma
#cults
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"This is sexual assault. This TIF is a rapist.
Edit: way too many people are focused on "that's not ACTUALLY rape" rather than acknowledging this is still an act of sexual predation and homophobic violence.
Intentionally depriving someone of their ability to give informed consent for sex is wrong. " Lesbian Meanies With The Memeies
"My experiences with cis gay men
Discussion
Just need to get this off my chest... and I'd love to know
if I'm the only one experiencing this.
I'm a trans man who passes pretty well and I was once
given the advice to not tell dates and sex partners I'm
trans. All I can say is I wish I hadn't followed this advice
because it just led to disappointments and awkward
situations that really impacted my self-esteem.
To make a long story short, I hooked up (or at least
attempted to) with 6 gay guys in the last few months.
All from Grindr or Tinder. I never told any of them I was
trans beforehand. Firstly because that's the advice I
was given, and secondly because I thought in the event
that they are not into AFAB genitalia, there's plenty of
other things we can do sexually that don't involve my
private parts.
So... how did it go once in bed? Terrible. Every single
time.
Guy #1: Shocked. Got extremely rude and asked me
why I "lied to him".
Guy #2: Shocked but still remained fairly polite. He
asked me to put my clothes back on and leave though.
Guy #3: He was visibly confused when he realized I was
AFAB but he didn't stop me. 5 minutes later he stopped
the sex halfway and said something along the lines of
"I'm not into this sorry"
Guy #4: Got extremely mad. I thought he might even
get violent. Thankfully he didn't and I managed to leave
safely.
Guy #5: We had sex. It went okay. But he struggled
keeping a boner. He blocked me the next day.
Guy #6: When he felt my genitalia with his hands he
went "Oh... are you like...?" I responded that I'm a trans
guy. He went "Oh ok... I'm gay though, sorry".
So yeah... Every single times were freaking
embarrassing... I'm so done. And I feel like crap. "
#RapeByDecption #Homophobia #SexNotGender #TIFs #InternalizeMisogyny #LGBAlliance #cults #skeptic #GetTheLOut
Something I just got reminded of is that the cult I grew up in thought "The Sound of Music" a bit racy and we only got to see a censored version.
#childhood #cults
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