This server is moribund so I migrated to @neuralex@autistics.life
Maybe I'll figure out how to move my best posts over there someday too.
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Late-diagnosed autistic adult. I'm using this account for mental/emotional/neural rumination and #ActuallyAutistic "special interests" like #physics #linguistics (and any toot that needs more than 500 chars)
Here’s some unsolicited advice: if someone hurts your feelings online, your Plan A should be to ignore, unfollow, or block them.
Don’t take the bait! **It’s a trap!**
People behind screens will naturally become aggressive and hurtful and it’s not *you* they’re reacting to, it’s some words on a tiny screen that some stranger typed than made them feel weird little feelings. And vice versa. You’re just imagining their faces and voices and feelings and lives too, imprecisely, inaccurately, unfairly, out of context.
These words you’re reading right now aren’t *real words*, as spoken amongst humans with grunts and gestures and pats and laughs and smiles and frowns and shared food and work and love and care. They’re just scribbles on a screen. Take em or leave em.
They’re not your friends, they’re not even your neighbors. We’re all just fellow strangers wandering in a vast dysfunctional social desert, reading each other’s field notes.
mysteriously move shit around when you're not looking
or while your finger is already diving in to tap the fucking icon it switches out for a different one and boom, flow gone, game over, insert coin
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