Open post Julia @julia@mathstodon.xyz · 33mo ago Replying to @masukomi@connectified.com <p>PSA: <br />“if it was important, you would have remembered it.” And “if you cared, you would have remembered.“</p><p>Neither of these claims have any basis in reality. Importance, and caring have no correlation to whether a memory is formed. </p><p>These sentences only serve to gaslight people about a chemical, process that they cannot control.</p><p>Please spread this knowledge. </p><p>Please stop gaslighting people with memory issues.</p> @masukomi@connectified.com I find it helpful to apply it to small things (e.g., forgetting to start the dishwasher) because it helps me stress less, but I can see why it’s unhelpful or even harmful for other people.